Eric Jaffe, "The Science of Cool"
I feel like there is mainstream cool and then there is weird cool, which takes much more effort to understand and appreciate. Mainstream cool seems almost effortless. Weird cool feels confrontational. People will often react with, “What are you trying to prove?” when in fact one’s actions are instead born out of a desire to just feel comfortable in one’s skin, regardless of how that manifests.
Six years ago, people thought I was strange for wearing sequins so frequently. Was I trying to be fancy? Was I trying to make them feel underdressed? In my head though, sequins and sparkles were a manner of masking my growing depression. If I could wear something lovely, perhaps I could feel lovely too.
But soon, the depression morphed into contentment and acceptance and the clothing morphed into an identity, one that felt right for who I was and am. And other people saw it in that way too. A friend once said, “I didn’t understand it when I first met you, but now I can’t think of you in any other way.”
Does it make me cool? Probably not. But it makes me me and knowing and loving yourself is the ultimate form of cool.(via britticisms)